I've been watching some Japanese movie and drama within this month. Actually, I don't have any idea of discussing Japanese traditional or cultural facts here, in this post. And I'm a Myanmar, in fact. Having different traditions and cultures, some points of view are relatively different, too. While I've been watching this drama, I saw the emptiness and starvation of "comfortable relationship" among people.
Back in 1960's, George Mikes (in his book: Wisdom for Others) told, "It is much easier to forgive great virtues than small faults." And he often heard remarks like : "To hell with him, he is a brilliant man but never stops talking," OR "Yes, he may be the greatest mathematician in neighbourhood but he keeps scratching his bald head and I don't like that at all". Are these all Bad Aspects? If we met each other for a quite short time and just have fun, we might not have seen what we would not bear of others. In long term relationship, even talking/ walking/eating or doing daily stuff would bother each other. He tried to found a solution; there is no need to be patient with other people's faults (because we all possess irritating faults in our own way).
Comfortable? Could we be really comfortable with all that unknown sides of our "chosen" ones? Absolutely, YES. Only after having non-profit relationship based on some less-emotional state. Once we want to show-off in front of a person, we can't be honest on ourselves. We simply want to be as flawless as possible, at least for that person. Before our bad aspects could beat our appearance, we just want to be the best. In this way, our honesty level is lowered by ourselves. Perhaps I might have mixed up different types of relationships. I can't help it, but it's the way I feel it.
Mostly in friendships, we could find that type of relationship. Sometimes, that friendship leads unbelievable great benefits. Even in daily routine, the time we used together, would build a brotherhood among colleagues. So, questioning about getting along well with each other? There might be small-scale argument, disagreement, quarrelling, or other daily events among people. As long as we could be honest, there would be trust-worthy relationship awaiting ahead. And what a sad! That's the great difficulty in real world.
Well, now, come to the point of friendship. Honestly, I'd prefer the honest friendship to much harder love-relationship, for myself. Even so, I may not be able to avoid the tendency to show-off in my beloved one's appearance. So, how could I build that honest, trust-worthy, valuable relationship with my heart-pounding, head-aching, expensive, special person? There must be a point of balance that would make our life to be filled with love, kindness, empathy and FORGIVENESS. First, to ourselves, then to other.
Actually, there is no need to be patient with other people's faults (because we all possess irritating faults in our own way).
Yes, I'm thinking much about it, and I will need to think more in coming days, too..... Perhaps, we might be able to check it out in our daily life.... :) for better relationships!
